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  For born ins- what tipped you off it was wrong

  by teela(2) in

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  at a young age i remember watching tv and commenting why is the red cross always helping people and we don't.

  the second big one is if the witnesses only started up in 1890 - 1900 did jehovah not have anyone else doing the preaching work?.

  as a child i don't think we think about theological problems so what tipped you off?

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  Scarred for life

  I don't think it was one thing for me. Lots of things that added up.

  Lack of love. Coldness. Fear of each other.

  My friends at school were much nicer, better people than any of the kids my age at the Kingdom Hall

  I started getting the idea around the age of 13 that I needed to find a husband. A good JW husband. I was really drinking the Kool-Aid at that time. Over the next 2 years I woke up. I knew I didn't want that life. I wanted no part. I wanted to get a college education and get a good job and be able to support myself. I was definitely influenced by my school friends, teachers, reading Animal Farm in the 9th grade, and the non-JW side of my family(grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins). I am eternally grateful for those outside influences. They gave me the courage to revolt and leave.
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  My mom's love for me is based on well I am doing 'spiritually'---

  by QuestioningEverything in

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  this is the comment that my husband made to me this morning about his mom.

  i felt terrible for him.

  his childhood was very jw structured.

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  Scarred for life

  I'm really sorry about your husband's mother. I'm glad he's got you.
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  What Do You Think Of This Site?

  by minimus in

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  is it a "godsend"?.

  honestly, would you be troubled if this site ceased to exist?.

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  Scarred for life

  I would miss this site if it ceased to exist.
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  Hello..this is my story..

  by Lozhasleft in

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  i'm pleased to have found this site...i've browsed a little ...read quite a lot and gasped at some stories, giggled at the one liners and nodded in recognition of others' strong opinions and can relate to a great deal.. i'll try and keep my intro as brief as possible for anyone kind enough to listen.. i got involved with the witnesses in the late 70's in the uk.

  i was in my early 20s and had had a love and fascination for the bible since my difficult childhood.

  i soon brought my life into 'line' although it took a long time for me to pack up the smoking which didnt go down well in those days when 6 months of study should have been enough and if you hadnt cracked it then it was suggested that you were some kind of loser.... i reared my 4 children in the 'truth' as well as i could but i cant claim that we were a 'strong' family in their terms...just muddled along really..my husband at the time was a very difficult and abusive man and home life wasnt easy for any of us with his anger, jealousy and violence.

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  Scarred for life

  Loz, Thanks for sharing your story. You might want to think about visiting some churches. You might find one that you are really comfortable with and you can get back into bible study and bible discussions.

  Welcome to the board.
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  My Memorial Tonight

  by jookbeard in

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  i sat in the car with some trepidation and minor nerves and walked the 200 yards to the k/h on this damp dreary night.

  i was a bit early and was greeted pleasantly by a hall attendant who shook my hand an asked my name, as i walked inside to my surprise i recognized 3 of the brethren, one was a guy who was a reasonably good pal who dated a friend of mine all those years back, he exchanged glances and he blanked me, the others were a middle aged couple who were sat a few rows in front of me but no eye contact was made, i proceeded to sit down and another 2 sisters greeted me, so in the space of about 10 mins a grand total of 4 people have made the big effort to say hi.

  the opening song commenced and the sister next to me kindly offered me her songbook.

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  Scarred for life

  I think if what you did had personal meaning to you then good for you! I hope you got what you wanted out of it.
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  sd-7's whining session 3-30-2010

  by sd-7 in

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  so...memorial tonight, eh?

  yup.

  sunday was a fun meeting.

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  sd-7, Get some counseling for yourself anyway. Decide if this is really what you want out of life. If not, hasta la vista, baby. To your wife and the cult.
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  My first experience at a Christian church--for what it's worth

  by bluecanary in

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  i am dating an advent christian (very similar to baptist).

  i went to church with him for the first time yesterday.

  i was pleased that he wanted me there because it's nice to be included in things that are meaningful to him.

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  I attend a Methodist church. We have a traditional service as well as a contemporary one. The service is similar to what you described. It's absolutely nothing like what the JWs say. They are liars about so many things.
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  Memorial 2010 Your Experiences

  by scotinsw in

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  just got back from memorial.

  only went so that i could say to my parents that i had gone and to remind myself why i left.. oh my word!!!

  it was sooooo painful.. got there a bit late - it was a couple of minutes into the talk.

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  Scarred for life

  Ah, yes. Freedom from control. I took a quiz on Facebook yesterday about what my Hippie name would be. It came up Freedom Daisy Sunshine. I thought, " How appropiate. I love my freedom of thought and freedom of control that I was raised in.
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  Haven't been to a meeting in 4 yrs

  by Dnice in

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  but still feel the need to attend.

  anyone else feel or felt that way?.

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  Scarred for life

  No, that desire does not hit me. I still sometimes feel a little nauseated when I go by a KH. Or I feel angry or I feel sorry for the people that go there. But I won't go back into a KH. I have mostly negative memories.
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  I'm new and wanted to introduce myself

  by MarkedFragile in

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  hello everyone.. i'm new to this forum.

  i left the organization several months ago, and am on a new path now.

  though i didn't grow up in the organization, i have basically lived a life of pretending to be something i'm not, sheltering my feelings from everyone, and not feeling "enough" to anyone.

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  Scarred for life

  Welcome to the board! We understand.